â€œIf we canâ€™t self-market, weâ€™re inhibiting ourselves.â€
~ Erica Thomas
Last week the Network of Entrepreneurial Women gathered at 57th Street Books in Hyde Park to discuss How to Brag. NEW Co-Founder Erica Thomas led the discussion with research on how women are conditioned to not boast about their achievements, since if they do they can be perceived as too pushy, resulting in women self-editing.
Tips Erica provided included:
- Make a bragalog: Tell a short story that weaves in your brag points. Inserting relevant facts into a story makes your speech moreÂ memorable
- Have someone brag for you: bring a wing-woman along who can introduce (and boast about) you, and then reverse roles.
- Put your brags into a joke: rather than specifying how long youâ€™ve been in business numerically, use a difference reference, like â€œIâ€™ve been in business since the earth cooled.”
- Pay attention to the person you are networking with: In listening to their needs, you can insert relevant â€˜brag pointsâ€™ during the conversation
We discussed our own personal pitfalls and brainstormed additional strategies, such as cataloguing 3 positive things about yourself/business and using those in your bragalog. We also discussed how many skills are perceived as â€œinnateâ€ to women, such as caregiving, nurturing and teaching, that economically and anthropologically they arenâ€™t valued as a learned skill.
â€œWhen someone is boosting you up,
donâ€™t get flushed. Stand up and be proud.â€
We then went around in a celebration circle and each person told the group what they admire about another person in the circle. It was a lovely experience that made many of us blush, and helped us perceive ourselves as more brag worthy.
We have some courageous, optimistic, determined, get-it-done, supportive, generous, caring, listening, dedicated, driven, brilliant women in our group, who truly do â€œuse their powers for good,â€ as Erica said.
I look forward to our next Meet & Munch, which features a discussion about stress. You can find us at Hub 83, 6 Executive Court, South Barrington, from 2-4 p.m. On Wednesday, July 9. Ann Marie Berg, a Wellness Consultant and Health Coach, will talk about stress management, share relaxation techniques and facilitate a discussion around de-stressing.
â€œThereâ€™s nothing wrong
with telling people the truth about your business.â€
~ Erica Thomas
NEW â€“ The Network of Entrepreneurial Women is a group of Chicagoland business women who are upgrading business networking with fun and creative events that inspire attendees to work together, refer each other and most of all cheer each other on as the membership succeeds. Events rotate around various suburbs on a semimonthly basis, usually the 2nd Wednesday and 4th Thursday of the month. RSVP for our upcoming events at Meetup, or like us on Facebook and check up on the calendar there.